Chapter 11 in "Uninvited" (by Lysa TerKeurst) talks about 10 things that we need to remember when we feel rejected.
1. "One rejection is not a projection of future failures." A rejection doesn't mean that you are rejected or a failure. It just means that it didn't work out this time...it's a circumstance from which to learn.
2. "Rejection doesn't label you; it enables you to adjust and move on." One no, or disappointment does NOT define us. It does not define your character.
Psalm 34:5 (NIV) "Those who look to are radiant; their faces are never covered with shame."
3. "This could be an invitation to live in expectation of something else." I like to plan...my days, my weeks, my months, my finances, etc. I'm learning to plan less and let God move more. Sometimes when I think I'm going to get together with a friend and that falls through...God has something else in store. He sees the Kingdom purposes of where He needs me and when. He can turn our disappointments into God-appointments.
4. "There is usually some element of protection wrapped in every rejection." I love that the Lord sends angels to protect me!
Psalm 34:7 (NIV) "The angel of the Lord encamps around those who fear Him and He delivers them."
5. "It's good to ask the "what" questions but less helpful to ask 'why'. " Lysa explains that " 'what' " questions increase our ability to become more self-aware, while 'why' questions only focus on things out of our control." I never thought of it that way. It's good to ask the Lord what He wants me to learn or how can I pray about this situation, not why it happened.
6. "Don't hash, bash or trash on the Internet...the Internet never forgets." Pray, talk to a trusted friend, family member, or counselor instead of opening your deepest, darkest hurts online.
7. "There's much more to you than the part that was rejected." Let a time of perceived rejection include asking the Lord what else you should be involved in. Who knows, maybe He's leading you to a new job, a new hobby or a new relationship!
8. "What one person sees as your liability, another might see as a wonderful asset." As I was looking for a new job back in the fall...I interviewed several places. The first few interviews went well, but they said I wasn't a good fit. After I did get hired, at a job that I originally didn't feel like I was a good fit for, I'm finding joy and contentment in what I'm doing as I'm helping others.
9. "This is a short-term setback, not a permanent condition." If you allow Him, God will use the circumstance of feeling rejected to have "enough power to refine (you), and the hurt will give way to healing."
Psalm 34:17 (NIV) "The righteous cry out, and the Lord hears them; He delivers them from all their troubles."
10. "Don't let this heartbreak destroy you. Let this breaking actually be the making of you. Let God use it in good ways to make you stronger and take you further." I am so thankful that God sees the whole picture of my life and continues to use circumstances I've walked through to help me minister to others in their journey. My roots in Him are deeper and stronger because of it.
He indeed has pulled me close and I'm grateful He is not afraid of my rough edges...He continues to shape me in His image!
In what areas do you need to feel the Father's embrace today?
Links to the other posts in this "Uninvited" Series.